It is perfectly normal for a woman to long for a life’s partner. It is also perfectly normal for you and I to have high standards. To refuse to settle for second best.

Here are some do’s and don’ts for the dating process:          9780825439308-copy-16

During the get-to-know you process:

  • Do see each other in a variety of settings: with friends, family, co-workers.
  • Don’t only see each other when you are alone and looking your best on a date.
  • Do get to know each other for two years. The first year is the honeymoon period. The second year is often when the masks go down, revealing a more genuine person.
  • Don’t pretend you are someone you are not. If you don’t really enjoy the hobbies he does but enjoy being with him, be honest.
  • Do ask trusted family and friends what they see in this person.
  • Don’t ignore concerns of trusted family and friends. Nor should you make your decision solely based on their advice.
  • Do measure your relationship by how much each of you grow in your relationship with God.
  • Don’t give up dreams, interests, and relationships with friends and family to be completely devoted to your boyfriend.
  • Do remember no one is perfect but never tolerate poor or disrespectful behavior.

I propose that in the process of following your dreams and developing your gifts and talents, you will find fulfillment in pursuing your full potential in Christ. And as a whole and healthy person, you will attract another whole and healthy person. Then the relationship you create will be based, not on need and dependency, but on the assurance that you are together because the foundation is solid.